Attached is a link to Andrew Fuller's home page.
As a clinical psychologist, Andrew Fuller works with many schools and communities in Australia and internationally, specialising in the wellbeing of young people and their families.
Great talker with some very amusing slides to capitivate the crowds energy.
He discussed:-
The concept of "resilience" offers a coherent framework for the creation of schools that are sensitive to the developmental needs of young people and their teachers. As Andrew describes, resilience is "the happy knack of being able to bungy jump through the pitfalls of life - to rise above adversity and obstacles."
That made us wonder if he was talking about our kids or ourselves.
Major learnings for me (He provided the seed, and below is my interpretation as it relates to me:-
1. Stop saying "I am too busy" - It effectively means you are too busy for the person you are talking to. Also have an attitude of gratitiude, you have all the time you need. (you have the same time as everybody)
2. Hold families rituals that your family can rely on. Be it Pizza night, walk night, games night. Frank Lowy got his family over for dinner every Friday night. This will stick in people's memories. eg. Kids will say when they grow up "Dad use to make us always go camping together." It was a reliable, strong connection and grounding with their growth.
3. What is done in the 15 minutes before going to bed is most deeply cemented in the memory. Good ideas for this fifteen minutes includes:-
a. tell your kids you love them
b. communicate with them about life, ups & downs, wins and losses, goals
c. read a book
4. Kids need 9.25 hours sleep a night. Take TV's, Computers, Mobile Phones out of their rooms.
5. Give kids a taste of success and reinforce the feeling to make them pursue it again.
6. Play games. Teaches kids sequencing, numbers, reading, communication, participation but most importantly how to lose. If they don't learn to lose they will not be equipped to deal with losses and disappointments in life. Side benefit of playing games with your kids is the connection you share.
7. For breakfast give high Protein and low sugars.
8. Help your kids identify the difference between fairweather friends and true friends. They then have a language to process the disapointment.
Remember. Enjoy . http://youtube.com/watch?v=pRWmISaz-pk
Summary:- You are not able to get extra-ordinary results from ordinary efforts.
Important lessons to Teach your kids (Yes in the 15 min just before bed):-
1. Anything is Possible
2. Nothing is Easy
3. When things are difficult see rule 1
4. When things are easy see rule 2
1 comments:
Hi Todd,
I am learning so much from your article. I didn't know that these simple action can perform wonders.
Thank you.
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